The world of violence; Am I at fault?…

It’s been said that life has treated me harshly, I know,

I have kept it in my heart.

Many things of human goodness were denied me,

many affections I never received, I complained in my heart,

I reacted on people

I reacted on things……

I have been in a position to counsel and guide people who have been violated physically, sexually or emotionally. I too get emotional, I can’t help but to cringe every time I hear on the news another wife beaten to death, another husband ‘chopped’, a child bullying another to death, another child defiled or a woman raped.  Many people ask, “What’s wrong with these people? Why is there so much violence in our world?”  It claims millions of victims all over the world every year. But where does this hostility stem from and how do we make sense out of what are seemingly senseless acts of aggression?

It has been said that we feel powerful when we violate…

It is true, but the joy last for a while, then I feel bad.  I regret

Many things of human understanding escapes me and I feel sorry but will never say…

I feel as useless as I felt before, I then look for another thrill….

We are socialized to believe that violence happen because it makes one feels power over the other.  This could be true, but it could also go deeper than that.  Kathy Seifert, says “in my 30 years of experience and research, I have identified numerous factors that determine our behavior and whether a person is at risk for developing violent tendencies. These factors include biological traits, family bonding, individual characteristics, intelligence and education, child development, peer relationships, cultural shaping and resiliency.”

Many a times I wanted to do good, I wanted to love and be loved

I wanted to be trusted and be a normal boy, the harder I tried the harder it become

Many a times I wondered….

Was I born like this, was I cursed? I tried to love they said I loved too much

Other times they said I loved too little

Violence is more likely to erupt as a means of coping mechanisms to life’s problems.  This is mainly because the factors of a person’s life or make up can affect and be affected by another factor. This mainly happens when the accumulation of negative factors (such as maltreatment, abusive environment, chaotic neighborhoods, or psychological problems) reach a threshold and there is absence of positive factors (such as opportunities to be successful, adults who provide encouragement, or a resilient temperament).  These negative factors may lead to developing interpersonal attachment disorder, that is, difficulty to form successful bonds with peers or relations.

They said I had tough childhood….

Nobody to love me, nobody to care

They only care when I act it is hurting them too, like they hurt me..

But now I know, I am going to try,

Everyday

I will make a step,

every day I will look for opportunities and forget the negative,

every day I will do good until it becomes a habit….

It’s important to realize how positive and negative factors play a role in the lives of children, youth, and young adults. Sometimes the adjustment of a few factors such as establishing a close relationship with a supportive adult, receiving pro-social peer encouragement, or getting protection from a violent family, is what makes the difference between whether a person becomes a violent offender or a mentally-stable contributing member to society. With this in mind, we should always look for the places we can make a positive impact, no matter how small, in bettering the lives of others.

 

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